Dave Winer’s How To Avoid Flamewars: When you’ve written something strong and personal, before posting, re-read it and pause for a few moments. Re-read what you’ve written and imagine that someone said what you’ve said, about you. Would you like it? Would you feel it was fair? Or would you feel angry? If so, you should probably reword it, so at least you would be okay with it. That doesn’t guarantee that the person you’ve written about will be okay with it. We’re all different, our buttons are in different places, we’re sensitive to different things.
I think my head just exploded.